Finding balance with Sharmeelee
One of my best mentors was a man who connected me with other successful women leaders and said, ‘You are not going to be able to get all the answers you need from me.’ He first connected me with a working mom. I had just had a baby at that time and she was a successful vice president who had little kids.
In the morning, when I left my kids at daycare, I felt guilty. I felt I wasn’t doing what I was supposed to do. So, I asked her, ‘What are some of the things I can do to not have that guilty feeling?’
She laughed and said, ‘I wish there was a golden rule, some magic answer, but it’s up to you.’
How do you balance? You have so many things going on at home and you have so many things going on at work. Some days, you’re going to feel as though you didn’t do enough at work or you didn’t do enough at home. Just deal with it.
Recently, I was talking to my dad and I was telling him how my mom is a very smart, intelligent woman who could have been a CFO of an organization. Instead, she managed everything at home almost all by herself.
I think, for her, it was a very deliberate decision. She made a choice. She kept telling me, ‘I’m doing all of this because I want you to be a rebel, to be somebody that you want to be.’